Making A Transition- Do’s and Don’ts

We all have our own reasons for wanting to try something new, or for suddenly acquiring a need for change.

More than the desire to collect stamps on my passport, I left home because I wanted to see what existed on the other side of my comfort zone; a burning desire for something more, a curiosity for the unknown.

I still have it, I don’t think it will ever go away. But, I digress.

It’s one thing just wanting to change- or recognizing that change is necessary- but it can be difficult to then take decisive action, and pursue what it is you really want.

Leap, and the net will appear.

– Zen Proverb

After chatting to some close friends and family members on the very subject in recent weeks and months, I figured I would put together a list that may or may not help people along, if they ever did find themselves at a crossroads.

Sometimes a gentle nudge in the right direction is all we need.

Don’t…

Dwell on negative repercussions.

Try not to worry about the what ifs- the possible consequences of leaping. You’ll likely just psych yourself out, end up staying put in that little comfortable place of restrictive refuge, never moving forward, with little or no opportunities to learn and grow.

Allow others to influence your decision. 

Ultimately, the decision lies with you. You are looking to do something for the betterment of yourself, and in turn, those closest to you. The reality is that things change and people change, and the right people will stay by your side. You are on your own journey, keep moving in the direction in which your inner compass directs, no matter what.

Put it off any longer.

Don’t wait for things to maybe get better in a year or two,  don’t wait until you have just a little more money, don’t wait for something to happen.

You shouldn’t have to put your happiness on hold; your life begins now, take control.

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.

– Chinese Proverb

Do…

Focus on the positives.

Think of the endless possibilities, the many benefits to taking a chance. There is so much to be gained from pushing our boundaries and stepping into the unknown. Yes it’s scary, but it’s also exhilarating.

Take the first step.

Pay for the flight. Apply for the job. Reach out to someone. Whatever it may be, that initial action will set the wheels in motion, and the excitement will start to build.

Be open minded.

Your expectations may not match up to the reality of the situation as it arises, that’s OK. Keep all avenues open. Embrace the change, and ride the wave.

Everyone will have their own unique experiences, and it’s not fair to compare one with the other.

One thing that can be said as being true for everyone however, is that by moving forward with a decision to try something new, or to make a change, you will undoubtedly experience some sort of growth, and you will learn something about yourself.

That alone has to be reason enough to go for it, I think.

If there is something you have been thinking about doing for sometime but have been putting it off- for fear, or uncertainty, or otherwise- whatever the reason for your resistance to change, there comes a time where you just have to listen, and act accordingly.

Your soul will thank you.

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.

– Lao Tzu