I Do

You pull your outstretched, trembling finger back towards you at the very last minute, and think about getting back into your car. You instantly give a resolute shake of the head and have a quiet, reassuring word with yourself, before pressing the doorbell firmly. Her father answers the door; he shoots you a puzzled look when he sees that his daughter isn’t with you, before offering a surprised hello. In you walk with biscuits in hand- trying to decipher his small talk while you run the speech over in your head- trepidation.

The small, extravagant stone in your pocket feels as though it weighs a ton; it makes your stomach churn, your heart pound, and your palms sweat. You think back to that evening in her parents’ house a couple of weeks ago; you thought you were nervous then, but that was a cake walk compared to what you are feeling now. All your hopes and dreams for the future rest on the answer to a single question; two small yet extraordinarily powerful words that will bring two people together in the purest expression of love.

A little over a year and a half ago, the amazing news filtered through from home that my brother James and his beautiful girlfriend Tessa had gotten engaged. The excitement has been building steadily ever since- particularly from Trish and Aunty Mawney- and in just a few short weeks family and friends will come together to share in their special day.

James and Tessa

Soon to be newlyweds- Tessa and James.

Marriage can mean a lot of different things to different people, and maybe the definition of marriage has changed over the years.

When I think of marriage I think of wholesome, boundless love. I think of two people becoming one, voyaging through life together and enjoying all that it has to offer.

Marriage is a special journey- one that I believe everyone should have the right to explore with their soul mate while enjoying all the benefits and recognition equally- if they so wish.

On Friday, May 22nd (tomorrow) The Marriage Equality Referendum will be held in Ireland and will afford all Irish citizens registered to vote the opportunity to consider whether the following wording be inserted into the constitution:

‘Marriage may be contracted in accordance with law by two persons without distinction as to their sex.’

I’ve mentioned before in previous posts about how I make a point not to follow the news- you can read my reasons for such here– so I have to admit that I’m not well informed on the subject.

For that reason- and I’m sorry to disappoint those who were expecting a long winded explanation- I’m going to explain my simple thoughts in simple terms.

We are all born equal, and each and every person deserves equal rights.

In a matter of human rights and equality, there’s no doubt that common sense will prevail.

As one of the many Irish citizens living abroad, I would urge those eligible to get out and vote. Go and make history; lead the way forward.

Do you believe in equal rights for all?

I know I do.

I might not be the same, but that’s not important.

No freedom ’til we’re equal, damn right I support it.

– Macklemore, Same Love