Be You

As it’s coming up on 4 months since I’ve started this little project, I thought it best to take a step back and reflect today.

I got an e-mail last week from Tiny’s girlfriend Lesley, asking if I would help her out with a work project.

‘Tiny’- or Kieran as he was christened- is my younger brother; more on Tiny later.

I was delighted to be able to contribute, and I wrote a short piece giving my thoughts on well-being. Again I’m no expert on the subject, but her boss seemed to like it. Here’s what I put together.

One of my many places of solitude

Well-being boils down to two core concepts:

  • Happiness
  • Health (Mind, Body and Soul)

We are all uniquely special; we all have our own ideas about well-being, and how to improve it for ourselves.

Whatever it means to you, there has to be a conscious decision to want to improve it, or at least to assess it. This requires us to turn off auto-pilot from time to time; take a moment to reflect on where we are and how we got here, and to ask some questions of ourselves.

This might sound a little silly, but before you start it’s important to understand exactly who you are. What type of a person are you? What do you enjoy doing? What makes you happy? What do you want to do with your life? What is your passion?

Take a look at all aspects of your life- your health, your career, your relationships, your social life, your hobbies and interests.

What does your typical day consist of? Consider every minute; everything you do during this time has an effect on your well-being.

On this whirlwind adventure that is life, the book stops with you- and only you. You are the master of your own destiny. Take control, and enjoy the ride.

I read back over it a couple of times since, and it got me thinking.

It’s an interesting notion- understanding exactly who we are, and the importance of such. Upon reflection, I realize that it was a huge factor in my decision to start this blog in the first place; you may have noticed the key tagline on my homepage, ‘Journeying Towards Inner Growth’.

I can’t quite put my finger on the exact time when I started to think consciously about wanting to figure more about who I am. I don’t think there was a specific moment when something clicked- it was maybe a gradual awareness coinciding with my experiences.

Without going into too much detail, it stems from a desire; to wake up each morning knowing that I am fulfilling my calling, to do things that interest me and bring me joy, to be happy.

Pursuing a passion

In order for this to be possible, I feel it’s important to understand more about myself and who I am, if that makes sense. So that’s where I’m at, but how can I figure out more about this complex character?

Know thyself.

– Socrates

Like I said, a lot of it is through experience. You have to try things- sometimes more than once- to figure out whether or not it’s for you.

Reflection then comes into play after the experience; asking questions of yourself to figure out why or why not something works for you.

After that, it’s simply a matter of listening to your inner being, and embracing those things which bring you joy and fulfillment.

I also utilized an online personality test to find out more. I always had an idea of the type of person I am, but I was- and am- always eager to find out more. 

I thought it was hugely beneficial, and would recommend to anyone who hasn’t done so to give it a go, you may be surprised at how accurate they are.

I’ve included a link to the online personality test I took, give it a go here.

Apparently INFP (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling, Perception) personality types like myself are described as being imaginative idealists, dreamers, and mediators. It was a really interesting and fun exercise, and I wanted to delve deeper as a result.

I’m still very much at the early stages of self-discovery- or of my journey towards inner growth. I’ve come to understand that the more I find out about myself- the easier it is to tune in to what it is I desire- and the happier I feel.

It’s important to listen to that inner voice- or intuition- or whatever you want to call it. It’s not easy, but if we can get into that habit, life becomes so much more enjoyable.

After all, nobody knows better what’s best for you- than you.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.

You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go.

– Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)