A Good Year
Isn’t it interesting how our concept of time changes depending upon the direction we’re facing; looking back it always seems to go so fast. I mean, it feels like just yesterday we were enjoying a late night coffee in Itaewon. How so much has changed in such a short space of time; our lives are very different now in comparison, yet it all feels so familiar.
I’d be lying if I said it was smooth sailing throughout; we spent the majority of the past year apart, which was tough. Don’t get me wrong, as LDR’s go we didn’t have it too bad; Seoul and Shanghai aren’t exactly half the world away.
Still, never again.
There were so many highlights, many of which I’ve wrote about, and some I didn’t. There were a lot of laughs, and some tears, but the most memorable moment for me came at the Chinese Embassy in Dublin over the summer. That was the moment where it felt like it was all starting to come together; we had been talking about it for a long time, but it definitely felt more real from that point on.
You imagine something happening for so long, to the point where you can see it vividly in your minds eye, but when it actually happens it surpasses even your wildest dreams. That I think, is pretty special. We have been living together for 6 weeks now, and it truly has been beyond imagination. I think the distance really has stood to us, no doubt about it. Something so simple as having a coffee together in the morning, and just being in each others company, feels like such a treasure. Not ever taking that presence for granted, is something that I will be forever grateful for.
Upon reflection, I figured I would give my top three survival tips given our experience in the matter, and seen as we came out the other side intact. I can say now with certainty that LDR’s do work; it’s far from easy but it’s worth it.
1. The End
It’s crucial to set your end date; mark it down in your calendar, and count it down. You have to know when it’s going to end, this is so important. I say end, but actually, it’s the beginning. Trippy.
2. Coffee Dates
This is a lot of fun and it actually-kind-of feels like you are on a real date together, in the flesh. For us, we both had a Zoo Coffee in our neighbourhood that worked well. Keep the fingers crossed for decent internet connection.
3. Regular Visits
We were lucky in that it’s only a 2 hour flight from Seoul to Shanghai, so for us this was doable. If you can manage it, try to schedule visits every month or so.
It was an incredibly exciting and enjoyable time, we learned a great deal about each other and I wouldn’t change anything for the world, but like I said before, never again. As one chapter closes, another begins. It’s completely new territory for us both sharing a living space together, and it has been immensely enjoyable. It feels as though we have been living together for years, strangely. Perhaps we have, in another time.
As I type this I do so with the lights off in our hotel room, trying to make as little noise as possible so as not to wake you. The little puddle of drool on the pillow however, and the soft puppy-like snore, tells me that you won’t be waking up anytime soon. Tomorrow marks a year together. A good year, a great one. I’m looking forward to many more, each one more incredible than the last.